Sincerely, A Black girl.

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Dear Black Girls,

Do you know that you can rule the world? Do you know that your natural hair is beautiful just like the color of your skin?

There’s been so much going on lately relating to the battle of complexions and the battle of hair and I just can not understand why. Why do we let people break us down so much that we begin to feel invisible and ashamed? We come from a place that many will not understand but everything is not for others to understand!

The coils in your hair is beautiful. Every time you wet your hair do you examine how quickly your curls bounce back or how full and lustrous your hair is? People kill to have tight curls like us. and people kill to have full hair like us! How many people do you know that buys way too many extensions just to mimic our hair….yet we’re ashamed?

And don’t get me wrong.. I do not care what type of hair you have, or where you decide to purchase hair from. I, myself purchase extensions when I feel like giving my hair a break or not dealing with it so I am not one to judge! But, we should embrace our natural hair just as much as we embrace those quick fixes. Don’t let anybody bully you into thinking that you’re not naturally beautiful, because you are. The texture of our hair and the color of our skin should not determine who we are as people.

Stop putting perms/relaxers into you/your child(ren)s hair because YOU would rather a quick fix than to learn what it requires in order for it to be how you want it to be. Why are we stripping our hair? Why are we thinning out our hair? Just tell me why. Is it that you feel like it’s too much to handle? or is it that you simply run out of ideas? Putting a perm into your child’s hair is taking the option to be natural away from them. The more you perm their hair, the worse it’ll get. What if your child decides that they want to go natural after years and years of getting unhealthy perms. And now, they have two options. The first being to let new growth grow to transition, and the second being to cut their hair and let it grow back. Now how would you feel if you had limited options? Exactly! So stop it!

Now that I got that out-of-the-way. Why is it that everyone feels like light people are one way, and brown/dark skin people are another? Why is it that we cant be equal? Why is it that brown/dark skin women are being bashed so much more for wearing certain hair or makeup colors? A few days ago I heard someone say that “dark women should not wear light hair because it makes them look disgusting” and that made me so sad. We really have people out here that believes darker skinned women have limitations to how they should wear their hair, or wear anything for crying sakes. It is ridiculous and it needs to stop! Everyone has their own sense of style which might differ from the others but that makes them no less of a human being.

Please stop stereotyping black women!

Everyday I see something on social media about how black women have the worst attitudes or are too much to handle. And I feel like black women catch attitudes like everybody else. Black women aren’t afraid to let things be known and to put a foot down when something isn’t right and that’s what makes us special! We’ve been walked over for so long I feel its right. Express yourself, be free-spirited and whole-hearted! Wake up everyday with the intentions of ruling the world! Do something that you’ve always wanted to do. Black women of all complexions are beautiful and I feel like you needed to hear this.. Never settle to be ordinary.

Closed mouths do not get fed at this table honey!

Until next time, xOxO.

Let me know what you think in the comments below!

35 thoughts on “Sincerely, A Black girl.

    1. I will definitely have to read your post! Thank you so much for your feedback, and yes its very important to embrace our natural beauty. Especially due to everything/everyone changing their looks to please society.. and Society praising those women.

  1. Such an empowering post and one that women should definitely read. It’s okay to be yourself and express what you feel. No one should stop you from doing so, not even yourself.

  2. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we all just got along? A world where the colour of our skin did not matter at all. Where kindness prevails and where people are just nice and respectful to each other. I hope this is the kind of world my nephew and nieces grow into!

    1. Agreed, yet this post is specifically for black women because black women are so underrated and bashed on a daily basis. You’re right, all women can rule the world. T
      hank you for your comment.

  3. Naturally beautiful and full of joy and force! Some of my close friends are the most honest and kindest people I know and yes they do express themselves in ways some people don’t understand, but you know what? I really admire them!

  4. I couldn’t agree more. I’m multi-racial and didn’t embrace my hair the way I should have when growing up. I wanted to look “normal” like my fellow peers. I got teased about my hair at times and it caused me to have low self-esteem. I feel silly thinking back on it now since I’ve learned to have a better relationship with my hair as I’ve gotten older. I no longer use relaxers, but I’ll occasionally use a flat iron or just put on a hat when I don’t feel like fussing with it. My hair may be different than some, seemingly have a personality of its own, and go through its fair share of good and bad days, but ultimately it is my hair. I think Jill Scott said it best when she said, “For me, hair is an accouterment. Hair is jewelry. It’s an accessory.”

    1. Thank you for sharing with me! I am so happy that you’ve came to accept your hair. When I was younger I experimented with my hair as well. Ive tried perms and everything of that nature but after realizing how my hair was reacting I stopped. Now my hair is healthy after letting it grow back.

  5. What a powerful message! It’s so important to be proud of ourselves and our natural features no matter what. As a makeup artist I always try to emphasize the natural beauty of my clients and not hide or completely transform them as normally the media would suggest.

    1. Its a good thing to hear that you emphasize natural beauty to your clients.
      A lot of makeup artists do not and its sad. People would rather look like plastic than like the enhanced versions of themselves.

  6. Everyone should have the freedom to speak one’s mind. It’s sad when we don’t allow that or find ways to curtail that. Unfortunately I think most people are guilty of this. It’s great that you get the opportunity to do that and no one should put you down for it.

    1. Thank you so much David! I totally agree. A lot of people are afraid to talk about controversial topics but I am not and will never be one of those people. I have a platform and I will use it!

  7. Oh my! I envy black girls for sure. If I had natural hair, I would totally rock it. And black skin is so beautiful – and moisturized. It doesn’t wrinkle much, either. I have a hard time telling black moms from their daughters sometimes because the quality of their skin is so wonderful. Every woman is beautiful, no matter her color. We need to celebrate all colors and our different heritages for sure. <3

    1. I’m so happy to hear you open up about hair and skin. I’m glad that we live in a world where people are not afraid to say “hey i would love to have this, or that” but its truly special to hear this about black women because so many people take the time to break down every little piece of us. You can have my skin, and I will take yours! (If only it was possible, a lot of people would have a better understanding of different races).

  8. Everyone of us is beautiful in our own unique way. WE should acknowledge these gifts and nonstop to appreciate others.

  9. I say live and let live. People should be allowed to live their lives the way they want to. Regardless of hair, skin colour, gender, sexuality etc.. we’re all human. Really saddens me that people don’t see this

    1. The world we live in is crazy.. in a few years I hope to see improvements but honestly I don’t think it’ll ever happen.

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