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Dear Black Girls,
Do you know that you can rule the world? Do you know that your natural hair is beautiful just like the color of your skin?
There’s been so much going on lately relating to the battle of complexions and the battle of hair and I just can not understand why. Why do we let people break us down so much that we begin to feel invisible and ashamed? We come from a place that many will not understand but everything is not for others to understand!
The coils in your hair is beautiful. Every time you wet your hair do you examine how quickly your curls bounce back or how full and lustrous your hair is? People kill to have tight curls like us. and people kill to have full hair like us! How many people do you know that buys way too many extensions just to mimic our hair….yet we’re ashamed?
And don’t get me wrong.. I do not care what type of hair you have, or where you decide to purchase hair from. I, myself purchase extensions when I feel like giving my hair a break or not dealing with it so I am not one to judge! But, we should embrace our natural hair just as much as we embrace those quick fixes. Don’t let anybody bully you into thinking that you’re not naturally beautiful, because you are. The texture of our hair and the color of our skin should not determine who we are as people.
Stop putting perms/relaxers into you/your child(ren)s hair because YOU would rather a quick fix than to learn what it requires in order for it to be how you want it to be. Why are we stripping our hair? Why are we thinning out our hair? Just tell me why. Is it that you feel like it’s too much to handle? or is it that you simply run out of ideas? Putting a perm into your child’s hair is taking the option to be natural away from them. The more you perm their hair, the worse it’ll get. What if your child decides that they want to go natural after years and years of getting unhealthy perms. And now, they have two options. The first being to let new growth grow to transition, and the second being to cut their hair and let it grow back. Now how would you feel if you had limited options? Exactly! So stop it!
Now that I got that out-of-the-way. Why is it that everyone feels like light people are one way, and brown/dark skin people are another? Why is it that we cant be equal? Why is it that brown/dark skin women are being bashed so much more for wearing certain hair or makeup colors? A few days ago I heard someone say that “dark women should not wear light hair because it makes them look disgusting” and that made me so sad. We really have people out here that believes darker skinned women have limitations to how they should wear their hair, or wear anything for crying sakes. It is ridiculous and it needs to stop! Everyone has their own sense of style which might differ from the others but that makes them no less of a human being.
Please stop stereotyping black women!
Everyday I see something on social media about how black women have the worst attitudes or are too much to handle. And I feel like black women catch attitudes like everybody else. Black women aren’t afraid to let things be known and to put a foot down when something isn’t right and that’s what makes us special! We’ve been walked over for so long I feel its right. Express yourself, be free-spirited and whole-hearted! Wake up everyday with the intentions of ruling the world! Do something that you’ve always wanted to do. Black women of all complexions are beautiful and I feel like you needed to hear this.. Never settle to be ordinary.
Closed mouths do not get fed at this table honey!
Until next time, xOxO.
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