Hey loves and welcome to SimplicitCi.
Today I wanted to talk about friends.
Friends are people who are considered close enough to confide in. Friends can become like family to you as time goes on but what type of friends do you have?
“Friendships” consist of different people/personalities and you should watch out for the signs of an unhealthy friend.
Friendships work both ways and although people get caught up in life how long do you go without talking to one another? Do you guys quickly pick up where you left off or do you feel like you have to pick them apart in order to hear about what’s going on? If this is something you find yourself doing you should reconsider the friendship.
(TTM: We are friends…..right?!)
Friendship goes both ways and each person should be reliable enough to check up on one another to see how life is treating them. I can go a few days without talking to people but I always make sure to check up on those that check up on me because that’s what a real friend does.
When you find yourself on the edge of a friendship what should you do?
The first thing that I would do is talk to the person about how you feel things are going because you never know what someone is going through. It could be a rough time for them because of things going on and they might need a break from everything and everyone.
I know that when I find myself stressing out I tend to back away from being social because i’ll end up all over the place. I’ll be thinking about fifty different things at one time which is stressful and imagine adding someone else’s problems on top of that. The good thing is I never stay away for too long because I value my friendships with people. Even if I send them a text message instead of facetiming or calling to see how their doing, its better than being one-sided and saying nothing at all. When things are going on and I crawl into my shell I normally explain to my friends whats going on (when I feel comfortable). That way the line of communication is open.
The second thing that I would do is to watch how they respond/react moving forward. If you bring up a red flag to someone and they seem to not care about it or “forget” about it, that shows that this person is one-sided and self-centered. Stay away from people who are self centered because they’ll never see a problem in anything that they’re doing.
By watching how they react moving forward will show you a lot about where the friendship stand as a unit.
We’ve all had that friend that was once very close to us but something happened to whereas though things fell apart. And its okay because life goes on. It might suck for a while especially if that was your only friend but eventually you’ll pay less attention to it and go on with your life. Some friends are not meant to climb mountains with you. Sometimes people are temporary and if you constantly try to hold onto things YOU will end up stressing yourself out and carrying all of the weight.
Some people are meant to stay around for a season.
- How can you be successful at something when the team behind you isn’t on the same page?
- Why keep people around you that do not have the same goals and ambition as you? Dont you think that is detrimental to your success?
Some people are secretly rooting for you fail because SOME people do not like to see others flourish. And the moment they do, here comes an issue. If you have a conversation about something that you’re excited or proud about and that person is dry…..its time for a new friend sis!
We’re speaking everything into existence that has to do with becoming the best person that you could be.
Say it with me.
- Good friends
- Healthy relationships and…..
- Better jobs
If you want to write that book, write that book! If you want to open that business, open that business sis! Its hustle season. We can and we WILL do this.
I believe in you!
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