Let’s talk about “friends”

Hey loves and welcome to SimplicitCi.

Today I wanted to talk about friends.

Friends are people who are considered close enough to confide in. Friends can become like family to you as time goes on but what type of friends do you have?

“Friendships” consist of different people/personalities and you should watch out for the signs of an unhealthy friend.

Friendships work both ways and although people get caught up in life how long do you go without talking to one another? Do you guys quickly pick up where you left off or do you feel like you have to pick them apart in order to hear about what’s going on? If this is something you find yourself doing you should reconsider the friendship.

(TTM: We are friends…..right?!)

Friendship goes both ways and each person should be reliable enough to check up on one another to see how life is treating them. I can go a few days without talking to people but I always make sure to check up on those that check up on me because that’s what a real friend does.

When you find yourself on the edge of a friendship what should you do?

The first thing that I would do is talk to the person about how you feel things are going because you never know what someone is going through. It could be a rough time for them because of things going on and they might need a break from everything and everyone.

I know that when I find myself stressing out I tend to back away from being social because i’ll end up all over the place. I’ll be thinking about fifty different things at one time which is stressful and imagine adding someone else’s problems on top of that. The good thing is I never stay away for too long because I value my friendships with people. Even if I send them a text message instead of facetiming or calling  to see how their doing, its better than being one-sided and saying nothing at all. When things are going on and I crawl into my shell I normally explain to my friends whats going on (when I feel comfortable). That way the line of communication is open.

The second thing that I would do is to watch how they respond/react moving forward. If you bring up a red flag to someone and they seem to not care about it or “forget” about it, that shows that this person is one-sided and self-centered. Stay away from people who are self centered because they’ll never see a problem in anything that they’re doing.

By watching how they react moving forward will show you a lot about where the friendship stand as a unit.

We’ve all had that friend that was once very close to us but something happened to whereas though things fell apart. And its okay because life goes on. It might suck for a while especially if that was your only friend but eventually you’ll pay less attention to it and go on with your life. Some friends are not meant to climb mountains with you. Sometimes people are temporary and if you constantly try to hold onto things YOU will end up stressing yourself out and carrying all of the weight.

Some people are meant to stay around for a season.

  1. How can you be successful at something when the team behind you isn’t on the same page?
  2. Why keep people around you that do not have the same goals and ambition as you? Dont you think that is detrimental to your success?

Some people are secretly rooting for you fail because SOME people do not like to see others flourish. And the moment they do, here comes an issue. If you have a conversation about something that you’re excited or proud about and that person is dry…..its time for a new friend sis!

We’re speaking everything into existence that has to do with becoming the best person that you could be.

Say it with me.

  1. Good friends
  2. Healthy relationships and…..
  3. Better jobs

If you want to write that book, write that book! If you want to open that business, open that business sis! Its hustle season. We can and we WILL do this.

I believe in you!

Thanks for visiting and tell me about your 2018 goals in the comments below.

39 thoughts on “Let’s talk about “friends”

  1. There’s also that friend who is only your “friend” when you need something. My best friend and I can go for years without talking but when we see each other we talk like we live together.

    1. I feel like women have been treated like underdogs and it’s time for that to change! We can and we will be great at whatever our craft is! Let’s claim it!!

  2. The time always shows who is your true friend. I cannot imagine my life without my friends and hope to spend more time with them in 2018!

    1. I hope that you can spend all of your time with them this year! Time definitely shows us who’s a true friend and who isn’t. We can make the mistake of not believing what we see but eventually we will get it and act accordingly.

  3. I’ve had all kinds of friends. Good friends, Bad friends, Acquaintances. Those who treat you like family, and those who are only there when they need something. But friends are important to have. Some will stay in your life long term, while others will only be temporary. All of them are good to have (except the bad friends, no one needs those)

    1. Friendships are so important! As humans we need to socialize with others. We could definitely skip over the bad friends but we learn from them as well. So, I think we need a few of them throughout life to broaden our horizons so that when something happens we know how to handle it.

  4. I really needed to read this right now. I’m currently going through a rough patch with a friend right now and this helped me reflect on the relationship and got me starting to think about what next moves to make.

    1. I am so happy that my writing could help you reflect on what’s going on.

      I hope that you and your friend are able to make amends about whatever’s going on. I wish you the best of luck! Please keep me updated ❤️. Never forget everything is a life learning experience and some people may not be fit to experience everything that the lord (I’m not sure what your religion is, so please correct me or the statement by inserting your religious savior) has planned for you!

  5. I have many friends too, but as the time goes on..none of them can be on your side every time you need them. It’s good to have a small circle of friends that you know you can rely on. That goes to business too, you need to be on the same page for it to work 🙂

    1. You couldn’t have said that any better. Everyone has to be on the same page for things to work and sometimes we’ll be on the same page for awhile but something happens to where our focuses change. And it’s okay for them to change but some friendships may not be able to stand the rain. It’s sad but also a life learning experience. So we should embrace every change we come across.

  6. I usually thrive in low-maintenance friendships. When we know we can trust each other and have each other’s backs, even if we don’t see each other or talk to each other everyday. 🙂

    1. I totally agree! No one wants a friend that’s always under them.. some people like those type of friendships and I used to be one of those people until I realized I like having my space from everyone.. including my own mother 😂

  7. I have 4 friends that I have known for at least 30 years, and when we get together it is like no time has past and we were only speaking yesterday. We are ll at different stages in our lives but remain close friends. these are my true friends.

    1. I hope to have some amazing friends like you! As of right now I have one person that I could really consider a true friend but I appreciate her so much. We go days without taking sometimes because we’re in different stages of life but we always fill each other on when we talk.

  8. As I’ve grown older I’ve had more and more of the friends where you don’t see each other for a while but when you do it’s like it was yesterday. I really appreciate these friendships as they help to keep me grounded.

    1. I just ran into my best friend from middle school on our college campus last semester and I couldn’t believe how quick we were to bounce back like we didn’t miss 5 years of each others lives. It’s a amazing feeling! She has better interest for me then other people that I thought were my friend.. so she helps keep me grounded! It’s amazing

  9. Love this! I went to boarding school so most of my best friends live far away but we make sure to keep in touch. Friendship shouldn’t be dependent on location or how often you speak as long as both people are equally invested.

    1. I agree! They shouldn’t be dependent on location but sometimes it happens. Every friendship has a lesson behind it. Some friends are meant to be long term while others are meant to learn from..

  10. I am at this point in my life when I don’t really have any close friends. I quit my corporate job and took a homebased job. I have been tied down with the responsibility of caring for a sick husband and mother, plus the babysitting for my grandson and running a household and attending to the needs of my two sons in college. I am so tired everyday and I only wish I could have a friend I can talk to and spend some time with. Life can be so lonely.

    1. I am so sorry that you have to experience all of this alone. I could only imagine what you go through but please stay strong and push through! I am rooting for you ❤️. The man above puts us in situations like this for a reason. Never feel like you have nobody in your corner because you do..

      Thank you for opening up to me about what you’re going through.. you can talk to me! We can be virtual buddies. Hugs 🤗

  11. This is very good advice, I recently lost touch with a close friend of six years and while it is a bit of a shame, we kind of drifted apart because our values and goals simply didn’t line up anymore. It doesn’t mean I wouldn’t happily go for a drink with her, but I think that chapter has come to an end and someone else will step up to fill that place as you grow as a person. I mention a different kind of relationship in my blog post about commitment, I think you will enjoy the concept behind it too! It is on: https://www.klassickaren.com/single-post/No-Im-not-getting-married

  12. personally I think that people should learn to stay together and, when it’s necessary, people should learn to let people go, with no war or regrets. I believe in true friendship but I’m an advocate for the do-not-resuscitate of a connection: we must learn to live with serenity the end of a friendship , as if we accepted that a travel mate will not travel with us anymore, because his/her road is a different one

  13. True about that – some people don’t want to see you flourish! I realised this after I started my blog. And I just knew it. Great write up by the way.

  14. I have had friendships come and go in my life. And it truly is sad when they depart. I don’t know about friends for a season. I know we have such things in life. But I don’t know whether that’s a good or bad thing. I think true friends should be able to adapt and change and accept and support you through the different stages of your life.

  15. I learned to let go of “friends” that are toxic, those who just keep dragging me down and have nothing good to say ALL the time. It’s really important that you surround yourself with people who are genuine and truthful. Love this post! So honest and true!

    1. Thank you so much for your feedback! I totally agree. There’s people that I love regardless of what they’ve done to me but I had to let them go.. it was either them or me… and I chose me!

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