Hello, and welcome to the “Dear Women” segment of SimplicitCi.
On this segment of “Dear Women” I wanted to talk about importance.
When it comes to being a woman things can be difficult. As time goes on, the things that were once considered “important” starts to change, life shifts and outtings that we once enjoyed are no longer enjoyable. Regardless of what life is throwing at you, it is very important to take care of yourself in every way, shape and form. In the black community women are shunned for numerous things such as going out while being in a relationship and being selfish with self care. First off, I would like to let you know that regardless of who’s saying what, do what makes you happy. As a woman we seem to fall into a deep hole (especially after a relationship) hiding from the world around us. And we shouldn’t have to! We get soooooo involved with catering to someone else that we sometimes (or intentionally) give up on catering to ourselves. We forget to make our nail appointments or we skip going shopping with friends because we’ve invested so much into this person. Being with someone should allow you to invest into yourself AND into the relationship. Spending too much time around someone could be detrimental to the relationship and to your mental health. Plus, everyone needs a break from one another every here and there.
Now, I have a question for YOU!
Is it that we forget what our lives was like before this person came into the picture?
You have every right to be selfish when it comes to self care! You have every right to buy that bag, take that picture, wear that outfit and make that appointment! I believe that as women, we also forget how important it is to have friends while being in a relationship. Why leave behind people that was always there regardless of the circumstances? Sometimes relationships just don’t work out and you’ll yearn to have that one friend back. Never burn that bridge because when something happens you’ll need a shoulder to cry on. Family and friends will always be there as a form of support so be sure to keep them close!
NEVER forget who you were prior to the relationship.
Just become a BETTER you!
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